When you’re looking for love, it can sometimes seem like the whole world is against you. Part of you might wish that you could just walk into a room full of single people who are hoping to find a life partner and talk to people until you meet someone that you feel like you might want to get to know better, who also wants to spend some time with you. These places do exist; only they’re not physical locations; they’re virtual ones.
Online dating is a relatively new phenomenon in human history, but every day, algorithms and programming are getting stronger, and every day, people find relationships worth pursuing online. Of course, the prospect can be a little nerve-wracking when you first consider it.
The following will explore the basics you need to know if you’re looking into online dating. It will also provide some pointers that can help you keep your search focused and safe.
Really Think About Your Platform
Yes, there are a handful of dating platforms that are spoken about (or complained about) most often, but beyond these few “trendy” apps there are countless options available for online dating with a purpose or a filter. There are dating apps for those who love homesteading or who fully intend to live out in the middle of nowhere on a farm and are looking for people open to living that type of lifestyle. There are dating apps for each faith, Christian sites for Christian daters, the Muslim dating website for Muslims looking for love, and many others. The benefit of looking through all the different platform options available before beginning can mean the difference between finding someone who seeks the same lifestyle and has the same values as you and not quite aligning with anyone you go on dates with. Further, some platforms are more geared towards casual dating, whereas others are focused on bringing together people who are looking for long-term relationships or marriage.
Take Time To Design Your Profile
Most online dating platforms or apps will have questions or biography sections where you can share information about yourself. You’ll also likely want to post a few photos. An excellent place to start with images is to include at least one close-up of you (ideally alone so there’s no confusion about which face is yours) and one of you doing something you love (reading, playing with your dog, traveling, etc.). Then you’ll want to take your time to fill out your biography or answer questions. Be honest. If you’re not, you might just be wasting your time and someone else’s. You can’t maintain a lie full-time. No one can. Be honest and also be clear about what you’re looking for on the platform.
Of course, meeting people online can be a bit frightening, and there are some safety precautions you should be taking if you’re looking into dating people you’ve met through the internet. Most platforms can’t fact-check people’s information meaning that someone could easily lie or post misleading stuff about themselves on the app or website. It’s always a good idea to only meet up with an online stranger in a public place where there are other people around. Don’t share any personal information like your address, banking information, or workplace until you’ve really gotten to know someone and developed trust with them. If you do happen to discover something dishonest, dangerous, or frightening, you can report the situation to the app and the local authorities. Just because you were clever enough to figure out the scam doesn’t mean that the next person who hops on the app will be.
Unlike dating in the physical world, online dating presents you with countless options, meaning there are more opportunities for rejection than you might be used to. It’s a good idea to start slow when online dating and try not to take things personally. People are often looking for something very specific, and if that isn’t you, that doesn’t mean you’re not a catch and that someone else isn’t going to be the perfect match and fall madly in love with you. It might be that you have the same name as that kid who bullied them in fourth grade. Maybe you look like their sister. Maybe what you listed as your favorite food is something they hate. If you don’t match with someone or a message doesn’t lead to a date or a date doesn’t lead to a second date, do your best not to take it personally.
This goes both ways as well. It’s easy to find yourself slipping into a territory where you judge a person only by their profile picture and find yourself scrolling and judging on superficial criteria. If you’ve gotten to that point, you might need to take a break. Get your eyes away from the screen for a bit and only come back to the app when you have the time and energy to read the profiles and feel a person’s vibe.
The above tips should help you get into the world of online dating safely and with purpose. Remember, most of the best things in life require a little bit of patience. Don’t be afraid to turn down people you’re not interested in and wait for the right one for you.
Source: Upscale Living Magazine